Mindful practice boosts resilience by contributing to many different positive aspects of character.
Resentment is easy. Getting to the bottom of it takes self-exploration (rather than just exploring what you find so annoying about the other person).
Resentment can cause you to overreact if it's allowed to fester. If you don't keep yourself honest, it's easy to convince yourself that an overreaction is quite justified.
To fully understand one's own mind and life, reflection is key. It's the ability to review things from different angles to understand or observe all aspects.
If you've ever been a caregiver, you know you need "me" time to refuel, if you don't want to run out of patience and positive focus to share.
The "self" is a complex animal. From cognitive and emotional habits to worldview and resilience, there are so many aspects of self to work with.
This article by Thich Nhat Hanh from Feb 2019 for Parallax.org, talks about miracles of reconciliation that he witnessed.
This article by Rick Hanson does a good job explaining what it feels like as mindful presence gains more and more footing in your life.
Staying present in the moment is a key aspect of mindfulness because "in the moment" is where life happens. All the details... but only if you notice them.
Have you ever met a couple who seems to be living their marriage vows,.. for decades on end? "I promise to love, honour, cherish, etc..."
With mindful practice, an important perspective eventually clicks: You are what you think.
Patience is not a glamorous topic, but patience is the quiet genius that gets people where they want to go, with the least amount of drama.
All the non-glamourous points between point A and B, such as lineups and stoplights can be drawn into the good side of life with a little patience.
Research shows it's easier for our brains to dwell on the negative side of things, so it's something to work with in mindful practice, to develop a positive-leaning focus.
An optimistic viewpoint is psychologically protective, so Martin Seligman, father of Positive Psychology wanted to research whether optimism could be learned.
Self observation, and observation in general, helps us notice where we are, and figure out where we're going.
Observing the self, and life overall is a key element of mindfulness practice.
There is a noted trend in research, that children's resilience (or lack thereof) is negatively associated with overparenting, or what is sometimes called helicopter parenting.
A magnanimous heart is big enough to hold all things in acceptance, and to continue on in peace. It's possible if the heart has enough humility and vulnerability to stay flexible and open.
In some meditative spheres, they talk about "big sky mind." Imagine the top of your head touching and immersed in a big open sky that constantly reminds you not to get hung up on any of the big and small things you encounter in a day.
Every interaction is an opportunity for satisfying or supportive connections.
Mindfulness helps you refine your mind and focus (and your heart)!... and this can only be good for relationships.
The counter-move to judgment is acceptance, or seeing things as they are, without the overlay of judgment, criticism, or pre-formed ideas.
Cultivate an environment of non-judgment in your mind, so you can move past likes and dislikes in your thoughts and see what's next.